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What you said about "would I want to do something if I lived alone in a desert? That hit me right away. I came up with that litmus test of sorts myself a couple years back at least. I asked myself if I lived on an island would I?... (if I lived somewhere and there were very few people, would I still be transitioning and going after certain things? And my answer is Yes. Oh yeah. Definitely. And a lot of it is internal and it's just not based on people and my presentation publicly. It's just not. It goes back to childhood/early adulthood. All the internal stuff. It's really a big deal. But yeah that's kind of a good thing. That "if nobody's around do you still want to do something?" line of thinking. It really just gets down how much of your transition is truly for you vs. an external validation. And honestly I do want both. But it's totally not about other people first and foremost. [ Are you worshiping on your knees at the altar of the cis gender ideal of femininity and what it is to be a (passing) woman? (Or the opposite for Trans men?). If it is like that for you, you may be in trouble.]. Look, I seek further progress with my transitioning. But if people read me as transgender for the rest of my life I really don't care. And that's a very good place to be in terms of freedom. And my internal validation definitely feeds this. It keeps me in check I think. Because I know I'm trans no matter what happens. I believe if you're fine being transgender in and of itself, than you're more than halfway there. Free yourself!

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