Late Life Gender Transition: Coming Out After Forty-Five Part 1

Yes, Wendy did this....

UPDATE: Read Part 2 here

Let’s not sugarcoat it—coming out as transgender after 45 is like trying to reboot your life with a system that wasn’t even designed for you in the first place. It’s a goddamn labyrinth of emotions, social crap, and systemic bullshit. But it’s also brave as hell and can be one of the most liberating things you’ll ever do. So let’s dig into what it’s really like, complete with the good, the bad, and the ugly.

The Elephant in the Room: Why Now?

People love to ask, "Why now?" like it’s some golden-age mystery. The real question should be, "Why the fuck not now?" Let’s be real—for decades, many trans folks are stuck in survival mode. Family expectations, societal pressure, or just the sheer effort of making it through each day can keep you buried under a mountain of responsibilities and fear. You’re told to fit in, conform, and prioritize everyone else’s comfort over your own truth. It’s not like there’s a convenient moment in life where someone hands you a hall pass…