Navigating New Love When You're Trans: The Questions Nobody Fucking Tells You to Ask

Because starting a relationship is hard enough without society's bullshit

Starting a new relationship is already a complex dance of vulnerability, communication, and boundary-setting—and as a transgender person, there are additional layers to navigate. Let me break this down in a way that's actually useful and addresses what you're really asking about.

The Early Days: Setting the Foundation

First off, congratulations on your new relationship! That shit is exciting regardless of who you are. But let's get real about what makes this unique for you.

When you're transgender, a new relationship involves decisions about disclosure, safety, and authenticity that cisgender people rarely have to consider. The first question you should ask yourself is brutally simple: Do I feel safe with this person? This isn't just about physical safety (though that's crucial), b…