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H.Hart: Words and Pictures's avatar

Back in the 80s, I devoured all of Brown's books. She, and her characters, were eminently relatable. I was an unapologetic Pansexual who was always perplexed by the question "When did you come out?"

I was never in. I hated the inference that shame and hiding should be part of anyone's life, when raw joy was out there for the taking...passion and love and adventure and carpet diem that did not demand labels, invitation, permission or acceptance. I had, and have, a hard, indignant side-eye for anyone who deigns to Other sexual preferences. I hated the old-school factions of lesbians that demanded you choose a side;butch, or femme. I hated the weirdly superior attitudes of the "pure' gold star lesbians who were proud of having never been with a man. As though it made the rest of us less legitimate, somehow. So yes, I found a world of affirmation humanity, humor, and story in Brown's work. Thank you for reviving her memory and lauding her life as she

most certainly should be. As a woman happily married to a woman for 26 years, with two kids and much to be thankful for, I am always mindful of the trailblazers, and the ones who came before. So much gratitude for what you write.

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Sandra Hardie's avatar

Ah, yes. "Authenticity for Dummies: Book 2". Keep them coming, Wendy.

Once you figure out how to be authentic, being queer is easy. From my own experience, being authentic is more acceptable in social interaction than any other identifier you may hold. Unless, of course, you are a pathological narcissist, then you will spend the rest of your life trying to find the level of acceptance that you need to soothe your tortured psyche. Do I need to give examples??

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