Dear Wendy, as the father of a person who is trans, thank you. I try to be respectful of my offspring but doing and saying the correct thing, or words is challenging. When they first came out as lesbian we said so what else is new we had a good idea for awhile that this was the truth but we needed to wait for them to tell us, we did not want to rock their boat. It was much later that it was obvious that there was more going on. As they have continued through life we have tried to be as supportive as possible. We did not always succeed, but we keep trying. For myself learning and understanding and trying to cope with all that goes in to a relationship where I as a straight person have had to do a lot more self education and try to really understand what is going on with them. It is not easy, say that out loud I realize that is an understatement. The only parallel I can come up with that can help me is, it is like trying to explain what is a Jew to someone who has never met a Jew before and is looking for your horns. I know it is a week allegory but it is the best I can verbalize. Anyway I am glad that I found your work as I hope I can learn more and ge as supportive as I can. I only have this one offspring that I communicate with now and I do not want to lose the beautiful soul that they are. I see their struggle and I feel week in my efforts to be a better father to them but I keep trying to be respectful and understanding. I still have trouble with using the correct pronouns in conversation but I am trying. Hopefully by stopping by here I can learn more and hopefully give them a surprise, pleasantly, when they see I have come along in this journey also. My one guiding principle is that no matter who or what or how you define yourself I want to give my respect and my appreciation of you to each and every individual I encounter. If nothing else I feel if we can respect each other as individuals and as human beings it can go along way towards making this a better world for everyone. Thank you for letting me speak and thank you in advance for helping me in this journey with my child and through this larger journey called life. All I want is to try to leave anywhere I have been and anyone I encounter better than before I came along. Shalom Dan
Good for you , you don’t have to have people understand,it’s what you think that’s important to believe that matters . Now if you can explain how a magnet works that would really make me happy xx
I cannot even begin to imagine what you go through on a daily basis. But know this. I care.
“Your existence is not a debate. It's a fact. And that remains true regardless of who understands it.”
I don’t understand why any human being can’t just see people are just that, people.
I was taught we are all individuals and had every right to be that. Your words are so beautifully said Wendy!
Dear Wendy, as the father of a person who is trans, thank you. I try to be respectful of my offspring but doing and saying the correct thing, or words is challenging. When they first came out as lesbian we said so what else is new we had a good idea for awhile that this was the truth but we needed to wait for them to tell us, we did not want to rock their boat. It was much later that it was obvious that there was more going on. As they have continued through life we have tried to be as supportive as possible. We did not always succeed, but we keep trying. For myself learning and understanding and trying to cope with all that goes in to a relationship where I as a straight person have had to do a lot more self education and try to really understand what is going on with them. It is not easy, say that out loud I realize that is an understatement. The only parallel I can come up with that can help me is, it is like trying to explain what is a Jew to someone who has never met a Jew before and is looking for your horns. I know it is a week allegory but it is the best I can verbalize. Anyway I am glad that I found your work as I hope I can learn more and ge as supportive as I can. I only have this one offspring that I communicate with now and I do not want to lose the beautiful soul that they are. I see their struggle and I feel week in my efforts to be a better father to them but I keep trying to be respectful and understanding. I still have trouble with using the correct pronouns in conversation but I am trying. Hopefully by stopping by here I can learn more and hopefully give them a surprise, pleasantly, when they see I have come along in this journey also. My one guiding principle is that no matter who or what or how you define yourself I want to give my respect and my appreciation of you to each and every individual I encounter. If nothing else I feel if we can respect each other as individuals and as human beings it can go along way towards making this a better world for everyone. Thank you for letting me speak and thank you in advance for helping me in this journey with my child and through this larger journey called life. All I want is to try to leave anywhere I have been and anyone I encounter better than before I came along. Shalom Dan
I'm a mother of a trans man. He is my child and I love him deeply! You are not alone, Dan. ☺️❤️
Good for you , you don’t have to have people understand,it’s what you think that’s important to believe that matters . Now if you can explain how a magnet works that would really make me happy xx